Don’t get too excited, your not in the end zone yet.
The thing is that nowadays it takes a lot of time and effort texting back and forth before you can even get the date setup. It would be a shame to go through all of that work and then blow it.
Check out these three proven methods to improve your dating skills.
Key 1: Get Physical Early
You’re on this date because you want to sleep with her (and maybe date her later on).
She’s on the date because she might sleep with you, but wants to make sure you are safe and that it’s okay for her to have sex with you.
It’s always important to remember that and carry that confidence into the date.
Remember, she is there with you so she must be sexually attracted to you and thinks your worthy enough to take a chance with. Now it is up to you not to blow it.
A lot of men will avoid touching her too soon.
They want her to be comfortable with him before he goes in for the kiss later in the date.
This is a mistake!
You should touch her early and often in order to get her comfortable with you physically.
Gently put your hand on the small of her back to guide her through a door. When you laugh together, touch her arm or rest your hand on her knee while catching your breath.
Now it is also important not to be too touchy. You can quickly creep someone out if you invade their personal space too early.
With that being said, be a man of intent and before the end of the date you should make it obvious you intend to kiss her.
When the moment is right, lean in and if she doesn’t move away you know you are good to proceed.
That way at the end of the date, it’s much easier to escalate beyond a good night kiss.
If she shies away, it’s not the end of the world.
Give it a minute and reestablish physical contact by going back to what she was comfortable with before (unless it’s clear she wants you to stop, obviously).
This lets her know you still have interest, you are a man in control of himself by not getting bent out of shape and you respect her boundaries.
You can try to escalate again later, perhaps a little more slowly.
Key 2: Amuse Yourself, Not Her
Relax and have fun!
Don’t worry about how she sees you or try to analyze her reactions to what you’ve said. While you’re trying to figure out her body language, you’re not actually engaging her.
Additionally, when you do that, most women will sense it as approval seeking behavior and men who seek approval are completely disgusting to women.
Instead, have fun and amuse yourself.
Women find men who have the ability to be comfortable in they’re own skin attractive. Entertain yourself and allow her to share the experience as she comes along for the ride.
They don’t want the burden of having to amuse you.
It’s easy to have fun and amuse yourself, but what if you currently don’t possess that inner confidence to be your own source of happiness?
This confidence will come as you work to improve yourself as a man.
Until you have that inner confidence, just remember that your date is already attracted to you and don’t spend time worrying about it.
She did, after all, go on a date with you for a reason.
Key 3: Be The Man with The Plan
Women hate when they’re date has nothing planned, showing up to a date asking the woman where she wants to go or what she wants to do is a cardinal sin.
Making her responsible for the date is not her idea of a good time and if you don’t take the lead she will find you boring.
You might think that letting her choose and plan the date will win you brownie points or show that you are caring and accommodating. This is not true, she will instead just find you to be uninteresting and will not appreciate having the masculine role placed on her shoulders.
Interesting men always have plans.
You need to be the man here and take the lead.
Know where you want to take her and always have more than one venue planned.
The goal is to fit in several “micro-dates” within the evening by visiting more than one location and doing more than one activity. This will allow you to quickly build a connection and it will seem as though you went on several dates already instead of just one.
These are our 3 keys to step up your dating game .
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