You Are The Sum Of The 5 People You Hang Around Most.If your core peer group is focused on working a 9-5 job, partying, and just watching life go by, it’s very easy to find yourself doing the same thing.
On the other hand, if the people you are hanging out with most are going to the gym daily, creating businesses, and improving themselves on a regular basis… Guess what you will spend your time doing?
The concept is easy to understand and there is a reason why some of the most successful people in this world only surround themselves with winners.
But the process is a lot easier said than done.
I grew up in 5 foster homes, dropped out of high school in grade 10, and spent 10 years working in the Canadian oilfield.
My peer group was filled with drug users, criminals, and some of the worlds most uneducated people.
Because of this, I got stuck in a life and social circle that almost killed me.
It wasn’t until I hit 30 years old and depression had completely overtaken my life that I decided to literally throw it all away.
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So how can you change your peer group?
Well, the first step is to start distancing yourself from social events that are not beneficial to you.
Do you want to come over and play video games? No
Do you want to go out and get drunk? No
Do you want to hang out? No
It’s a lot easier said than done because you likely are comfortable with your social circle, even if it is completely sucking the life out of you.
With that being said it is important to make a change.
Many of your current friends and activities may very well be toxic but you simply don’t see it.
Most people, including myself, need to allow the pain of underachieving to build up to a high enough level before forcing themselves to change.
The second most important step is to replace those negative activities and people with something new and positive.
This can be accomplished by joining online groups and communities or attending local meetups.
The most crucial part of this process is that you need to break the pattern.
As an example, I quit my job, sold my house and all of my possessions, and poured my life savings into a unique course where I traveled the world for 3 months with an underground group of the worlds most successful pickup artists.
Now, I’m not saying that you need to take things to this extreme, but I was desperate.
Since making these moves my life is completely different and I now travel the world, go to the gym 5 days a week and have several online businesses.
The important thing to understand is that you can change your reality and build the type of lifestyle that you know you deserve.
During this process, you will feel compelled to try and “save” some of your old friends and bring them along on this journey.
It’s important to understand that this is not always possible and more than likely you will have to end some of your lifelong friendships or severely compartmentalize them so that they don’t hold you back.
Don’t worry, once you make the decision to embark on your journey of self-improvement those old friendships and social activities will quickly lose their appeal and will of been replaced with new opportunities and relationships that are much more exciting.
Keep moving forward, take some risks, and you too can accomplish your dreams.